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Wedding: The Grand Tasting

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This weekend Frank and I went upstate to attend our “grand tasting” and to take care of other wedding details. It’s getting down to the wire on booking things and we are in full steam ahead mode!

We are working with Mazzone, a company that is the exclusive caterer to many venues in the capital district. Rather than set up hundreds of tastings, they host four “grand tastings” a year and invite you to pick the one that works with your schedule.

It’s a cool idea because you get to sample so many different appetizers, entrees, sides and desserts.  You also get to see how they serve a few hundred people at once.  We didn’t get a whole lot of personal attention, but we have a meeting with our event coordinator next month and we’ll already have a good idea of what we want.

Here’s just a quick sample of what we tried.  I only had my phone, so the photos don’t do the food justice.

I didn’t get a shot of any of the items from the vegetarian room, but they had cauliflower steak which was one of my favorite dishes of the night!

The real highlight for me might have been meeting photographer JP Elario. I read his blog almost everyday for wedding and vendor ideas.  There are many great photographers upstate, but Elario has hands down the best blog. I always feel like I was at the wedding and he links to almost every vendor used. It’s actually been invaluable in my own planning! After I gushed all over about how great his blog was, we hopped in the Elario Photobooth.

I am still a very bad jumper.

The rest of the weekend was spent trying to run and getting rained out, which wasn’t ideal considering all the eating we did.  But we did manage to get in one sweatfest of a spin workout.

Frank’s parents came into town to finalize the rehearsal dinner location.  I’m happy to say–we did it!  We even nailed down our after party locations.  Somewhere along the way, I got to meet Giddy P. who works at the gift shop at the Gideon Putnam.  He is one hardworking bear. And that is one hardworking dress :)

While I was fairly exhausted when I got home from the weekend, I am more excited then ever to get down to the details of wedding planning! The one thing I really didn’t expect going into planning was how often you have to compromise or pick one thing over another.  For example, we wanted to get married in a church, but we also wanted people to arrive at the reception venue during daylight since the venue is in a very beautiful park.  However, the church only had a 5:30 ceremony, so it might be close-to-dark by the time people arrive at the reception. Yet, we didn’t want to get married at the reception venue if we couldn’t do it outside–and in late October, outside is a gamble.  I’ve found that once I realized I couldn’t have everything I wanted, but I could pick the things I wanted most, I’ve been much happier moving forward with decisions.

Wedding: Buying Used

So just to give you a wedding update, we’ve got a number of things done:

  • Venue+Caterer
  • Church
  • Florist
  • DJ
  • Save the Dates
  • Transportation (some but not all)
  • Hotel Room Blocks
  • Dress
Basically, the basics.
In addition to some of the basics, I have one item that is totally non-essential and just for fun. That’s my shower/rehearsal dinner/after party dress.  I hope to wear it for two of these events, but definitely for at least one of them.
I don’t have shoes, jewelry, a veil, garter, but yet I’ve already bought a second wedding-related dress. I guess I got caught up in dress fever.
I wasn’t really looking for a second dress; it just happened. I have been a bit obsessed with websites that sell preowned wedding items, such as Preowned Wedding Dresses, Tradesy and Once Wed.  I am actually looking for a sash to go with my dress. The sash that came was expensive. It costs was 1/3 the total cost of the dress.  I ordered the dress sans sash and I have been holding out to find a sash I like as much or more for cheaper or to find the sash used and at a discount.  I’ve also been looking for deals on veils.
I ‘ve spent an embarrassing amount of time looking for a sash or veil, but I haven’t been able to pull the trigger. However, I innocently came across a short dress I liked. Liked  quickly became must have and all of a sudden I had made my first preowned purchase!
I was definitely a little nervous about buying something I had never seen.  You never know exactly want you are going to get.
Here are the good things about my transaction on Once Wed.
1.) I was able to barter.  The seller was asking $250 for the dress, but accepted my offer of $200.
2.) The dress was new with tags and came in great condition. The tulle is a little flat, but that can be fluffed and steamed.
3.) It fit perfectly.  This was a question mark and is never guaranteed, but my dress fits absolutely perfectly.  I was familiar with the brand, BCBG Max Azaria, so I knew their apparel runs more or less true to size.
The things I wasn’t as happy about:
1.) The color.  The picture that was online showed a white dress.  The dress that came was almost beige. I was a little disappointed at first because I really wanted a pure white dress, but I’ve gotten over it.  The picture was an advertisement, so I should have inquired more about the color, the listing said white, but it is not white by any stretch of the imagination.
Posting Photo:
Actual Dress
2.) The Price–sort of.  The seller said she had paid $500, but the tag on the dress clearly lists $398, so even with tax, the dress was not $500.  If I had known that I might have made another offer.  And again, it’s a little dishonest. I still got the dress for 50% off, but it’s the principal, ya know?
I’m not writing off buying used or online, I’ll just know to ask more questions in the future. I also won’t buy anything without a picture of the actual item. Overall, there are great deals to be had on preowned sites and I think they are a great way to get a high end dress for much less!

 

Wedding: Hair and Make Up

Wow, it’s been a while!  The week flew by due to the long weekend and all of the sudden the weekend is here again. I guess that’s a good thing!

I spent last weekend upstate trying to finish all the major wedding decisions that really have to be booked now!  I went to about a dozen hotels, bed and breakfasts and potential rehearsal dinner venues. Our wedding weekend is a busy weekend for Saratoga, so we have to be on top of everything.  It’s kind of a stressful, but I am actually really happy to have major things done early, so I have more time for details later.

One major decision is definitely hair and make up.  Of course, I want to look my best, but it’s kind of hard to know exactly what I want.   I decided to try out three places that I had found, but knew relatively little about.  The most popular places upstate, like Make Me Fabulous, are all booked. I am sure there are still great options, but they are a little harder to find!

Here’s a sample of my trials! I’d love your thoughts! Be critical, it’s cool!

You can see my inspiration on my pintrest board.

Hair and Make Up Trail #1:

The first trial went okay.  The salon is super adorable.  My first hair look came out pretty well (above), but my hair was not holding curl, so by the second look, it was a little messy and droopy.  I liked the make up, it was more smokey than I would end up going,  but not bad.

Make Up Trail #2 (no hair). Excuse my unibrow–how embarrassing!

This artist was incredibly talented and fun to work with.  The make up was a little heavy, but I think I could work on that.

Last Hair and Make Up Trail #3

This was actually only half a hair trial. I didn’t have it booked, but we had a little extra time. I took the photo after my hair was down.  I liked this trial.  They make up was really natural, almost what I do myself.

Anyways, I’m just not sure, but I am ready to be done with the decision.

In addition to the wedding planning frenzy, I did mangage to take 2 spinning classes. I can’t pass up a $12 spinning classes at The Revolution. I actually tried it back in August and boy has it caught on!  In August there were only 8 people in the class, this time, both the classes I took were packed and they have opened a second studio!  The facilities are not quite flywheel caliber, but I love that boutique studios are spreading. I just hope they start renting spinning shoes soon! 

Finding the Dress

The experience of finding my dress was nothing like I imagined it would be.  I had always thought I would rent a dress or borrow one. I couldn’t imagine investing in something I would only wear once.  But once I was actually at the point where I was in the position to acquire a dress, my mindset changed.  The dress actually became important to me.

The second thing that surprised me was how hard it was to decide on one. I thought that you just “know.” I did not “know.” I went to about 6 places and tried about 70 gowns give or take a few.  The thing with wedding dresses is that they are all pretty. For the most part, they all look good! I went in with a huge range of styles I liked and really went a little crazy trying to sort through all my choices.

If I was going to do this again, I would definitely try to do the following before I started/soon after I started shopping:

1.) Wait until the date and venue were booked. Until I knew the season and the style of my wedding (formal), it was very hard to really know what type of dress to get.

2.) Pick a silhouette and commit to it. My main issue was I kept vacillating between ball gowns and more fitted styles. I loved them both and didn’t want to choose.  Once I did, it really helped rule out a lot of beautiful gowns that just weren’t what I ultimately wanted.

My first stop upstate was David’s Bridal. I went there mainly because I wanted to go with my mom and my sister, and I didn’t need an appointment in advance.  All the dress were nice, but nothing jumped out.  My favorite dress was an Oleg Cassini that was on sale for only $300.  It was very tempting.

My second appointment was at Klienfeld’s!

Living in NYC, I had to see it for myself. It looks pretty much exactly how you picture it. Unfortunately, my appointment wasn’t the best.  The woman was perfectly nice, but because you can’t look through the racks yourself, you really have to know what you want when you go in.  I was still all over the place and the appointment didn’t really help narrow anything down.  I shouldn’t have expected her to read my mind, but this was the first dress she brought me!

I have no idea where this came from. I am pretty sure I never mentioned wanting bare my mid drift.  After that things got better. I tried on a lot of different styles and she was very good about staying within my budget.

I do love the simple romantic styles.

Give me a long train and I melt.

I left Klienfeld’s empty handed, but I did have fun seeing people from the show. Sadly, I didn’t see Randy.

My next appointments were at Wedding Atelier and The Designer Loft.  Wedding Atelier was a beautiful store, but there wasn’t much in my price range. At the designer loft, I was sure I had found “the one,” but the one was actually four.  My family happened to be in town the next day, so they pulled some major strings to get me an appointment. Sadly, my family didn’t really give me the reaction I expected and I then second guessed my choices. The dresses I tried on were on the high fashion side, so maybe they were too dramatic for my family.

This was the La Sposa Detalle was the probably forerunner of the bunch…

I had to take a break after that one.  So over thanksgiving I booked two appointments upstate.  The first was at a beautiful store called Something Blue.

This  Kate Middleton-esque dress by Ellis was almost the one…

When I couldn’t commit to a dress this beautiful, I knew it was because I didn’t see myself in a princess gown for my wedding. I love them, but I just wanted something a little more fitted.

My last appointment was at Angela’s Bridal (which is featured in an episode of I Found the Gown).

The first two dresses I tried onwere both amazing. My third dress happened to be one that I had tried on at Klienfeld’s and Wedding Atelier.  The third time was the charm.  The second I stepped out, my mom and my sister immediately loved it and I knew it was the one.  I realized why I kept coming back to it, it had all the elements I was looking for in a dress. My lovely attendant Nora popped the champagne and the search was over.  Thank goodness.  ;)

 

Back on Track

I don’t know if anyone is out there.  Model blogger I am not!  It’s been so long.  Maybe I just miss live writer? No, no excuses. I’ve just had little to say as I’ve fallen a bit off the healthy track.  That said with a few workouts and 3 salads in 2 days, I am feeling more healthful already.  It’s always nice to start off Monday feeling like you are moving in the right direction.

We spent this weekend at the most beautiful wedding in DC. Honestly, I am not sure I’ve ever seen so much attention to detail or more personality at a wedding. It’s amazing how many gorgeous weddings I’ve been to in the last few years.

In addition to the wedding, I got to see some great friends, including one you may know! Gena! We met up at Dupont to see the farmers market before heading to Sweet Green! There I got to check out the juices that Gena helped formulate.

I snagged a Detox juice that was amazing–pineapple, apple, ginger and mint.  Yum.

We took our salads to go, so we could sit in the sunshine and catch up.  DC had ridiculous weather this past weekend.

Catching up was extremely nourishing ;)

This week I am already looking forward to Flip for Refine.  And I also have to use the Exhale classes I bought on Gilt asap.  I definitely miss feeling like a part of the running community, so I am on the lookout for a race in the near future.

Being out of the city was a nice break from wedding planning. Don’t get me wrong, it’s so much fun, but boy is it consuming.  I didn’t realize how quickly venues book, one of the ones I loved is booked until spring 2014! There are so many decisions to make on the venue, the season, the budget,  the dress, the location–it’s pretty crazy.  However, a few of those decision have been made, so stay tuned for more info on the soon to exist wedding page :) !

On one knee

I’m engaged. It finally feels real. I don’t do a double take every time I notice a shiny object on my left hand. But still, it’s totally crazy and completely amazing. I didn’t see it coming and all of the sudden what I had waited been hoping for (for so long!) was upon me. Frank plays a mean poker face, and boy can he keep a secret, so here’s how it happened…

We were at his parents’ house that morning after a family birthday party the night before, in the morning, I had insisted we go to Target.  I finally bought the pasta scoop I see Giada use in almost every episode, so it was already a good day. Then we hopped on the next bus home, Frank said he had to go to work  for a few hours (nothing strange about that, he’d had to take a phone call at the party the night before).  I went home and did nothing of consequence for the next few hours.

A few days earlier Frank had mentioned Saturday was date night. He hadn’t given many details, but date night is always a surprise. I had asked the few permitted questions we allow for date night and had found out, we were leaving early, around 3:30–by far the earliest date night ever.  Date night had a few parts, so I might want to dress up a bit to keep our options open.

When Frank arrived home around 2:30pm, I was still watching tv, and finally started to get ready.  I picked out a dress that I like and put some curls in my hair. I put on a small amount of make up, but nothing crazy or elaborate.  I don’t think I put on any jewelry. If I could go back, I definitely would have taken a bit more care getting ready ;) . Thankfully, I took Frank’s advice to throw some heels in my bag.

At 3:30pm we made our way to the subway, and began our journey.  At this point, all I could confirm was that we were going uptown.  When I asked if we could get off at 77th, Frank said sure.  Choose your own adventure, which was how I was referring to the date night. We strolled to Central Park, which was looking beautiful, as always.

I remarked how much I missed coming to the park every week to run.  I noticed how packed the Alice in Wonderland statue was and noted the adorable sail boats in the adjoining pond.  Frank steered us to the Boathouse.

He explained that this was our first stop since we had always wanted to take the boats out at the Boathouse.  Alas, they were closed early for an event. Frank tried to speak to them, but no dice.  (For the record, he had called many many times to confirm they were open until five, and even that day they had assured him they were).

From here I did notice a few mysterious texts and more of a intentionality to our “stroll.” But while the thought of engagement crossed my mind, I really didn’t think, based on all available information, it could possibly be the day, I thought the texts were just for the date night plan.  We wandered down to Bethesda Fountain, which was packed.

We slowly made our way around and then Frank pointed out a small tug boat in the water.  A small crowd of children and adults had gathered around it in fascination.  Frank guided us right over to see what all the fuss was about.

On the boat, I saw a small black velvet jewelry box.  At this point, I knew what was happening, but I couldn’t believe it was really happening.  Frank scooped the boat out of the water and before I knew it he was on one knee.

I was totally shocked and excited.  I remember him saying a few words, but honestly, I was just trying to contain myself until I could say YES! I remember thinking, don’t interrupt.  I am sure the words were beautiful because  everything Frank does is thoughtful, beautiful and special.  While I may not remember what he said, I will never forget the loving look on his face. I melt just thinking about it.

When I heard, “will you marry me” and I finally got to say yes!

As he put the ring on my finger and we kissed, I could hear clapping from the people around us.  It’s funny, I was so in my own little bubble of elation that those people seemed so distant.

Once I had a second to soak it in, my next move was to look for familiar faces in the crowd.  A tugboat doesn’t steer itself!  I quickly spotted our friends Michael and Amy and ran to thank them.

 

What I didn’t know was that Frank’s friend Gabe was taking pictures the whole time! I am so glad he did because they were so so beautiful. I feel incredibly lucky to be able to look back and remember this day forever.

We took a few more photos at the park before heading out for celebratory drinks.

Later that night we had dinner at Jean Georges, which is probably our favorite chef. Everything was delicious, light and intensely flavorful. This post is already long enough that I won’t post all the dinner pictures now, but here’s one of the gold leaf congratulatory cake they gave us!

That’s the story!  This blog has captured so many of my memories and special times with Frank.  I always wondered if I’d ever be posting our engagement story! I  guess I can stop wondering now.  Yay! ;)  Thanks for all the Facebook and twitter love as well. Bloggers rock.